As I open my eyes before the sun rises I find myself looking up at the ceiling, thinking and wondering. Thing why must things be so complicated and in some cases treacherous, wondering why must everything revolve around material things in this world. Don’t get me wrong striving for success and fortune is definitely the path to take and conquer but I am referring to relationships.It’s as if the traditional wedding vows have been rewritten over time going from being with the person for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to being with the person for richer or at least a six figure income and in health and a flu or headache (maybe). My point is that relationships, whether you are married or not, now come with conditions and if the circumstances in a persons life should impact them financially or health wise, well my oh my this is when the true strength or value of a relationship comes to light.
If you think about it who wants to hit a brick wall in life? Not anyone that I associate with, but in life sometimes things happen that impact your plans, your dreams, your current condition and they are out of your control. When that happens what do you do? Well you keep trying of course but sometimes that is just not good enough as the “What Have You Done For Me Lately” attitude comes into the picture especially when signs of it were seen early on.
The progression is the questioning of the other persons actual value then that leads to the input from outsiders who either have their own agenda or who didn’t want that relationship to exist in the first place, then if let to fester of course the relationship crashes and burns then this is when the bitterness has the absolute potential to turn into a hatred state or worse an indifferent state. Now the biggest question of them all is this if its that easy to walk away from a relationship because your other half hit a temporary brick wall in life then how can someone say that they actually truly loved them?
I guess that unconditional love is left for family and dogs while in the real world conditional love is what takes center stage. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not a bitter jaded person, not even in the vicinity of that, I’m very happy in my life, with the people in my life and looking towards the future, I am just touching on a topic that I found a need to touch on.Some people go to therapy to find out what the root cause is for their current circumstances and that’s great as that is definitely needed with some but for me writing allows me to not only address events in my life but also possibly shed some light for others worldwide that may be or have been in similar circumstances. Most people focus so much on the problem and dispense with the solution and that is so sad in itself.
Going back to the main topic, I fail to see the actual basis for love in a relationship if it is based on finances, once you begin to fight about money in a relationship, any relationship, well that is the beginning of the end unless someone smartens up quickly to evaluate whether losing the person that is suppose to be the love of their life is worth the temporary climate of that persons financial status. But here is the kicker in the whole scenario that you have to keep in mind that when a person, especially a woman, begins to have resentment towards a man as it relates to money the chances of them seeking someone else during that time is on the very high end of the scale, now I say a woman because in a relationship a woman leaves before she’s actually physically gone, and a man leaves when he physically leaves. With that said it really puts a spotlight on what value your relationship had in the first place if its that easy to jump into the arms of someone else just because they paid you some attention or they promised you the wining and dining, I think its the joke of all jokes especially if the person thinks that will be an everlasting situation, that becomes one in a series of broken situations that'll come down the pike but more importantly, it also says a lot about the person doing that doesn’t it?
I believe that in the face of adversity is when a persons true self comes out, not the facade that they put up for the masses but who they truly are comes out in the end, and that my friends is what you want to see because if they are doing something along the lines of turning their back on your during your worse times what makes you think they are worth having around during your best times.
Of course I am not talking about anything further than a relationship being based on money, there are many other factors that help a relationship collapse but this is a biggie, of course if a person is gambling, a drug addict or blowing their money away on nonsense then of course there is a valid argument there but if a person legitimately hit a brick wall with their job, their business and the other person looks to bail because of that then that it what I’ve been writing about.
Remember that circumstances are not permanent unless you want them to be and money comes and goes what stays strong and true is someone that is by your side for the right reasons, they become your true partner in life taking the journey through the good and bad times, creating memories along the way, celebrating the victories and licking the wounds after defeat, becoming each others solid foundation and fighting the battle together and not until a certain time line is reached.This is why I say that life is stranger than fiction because in fiction you hear about all the love that two people have for each other minus all the conditions that seem to be put into play as you move along in the real world.
Well these are my thoughts for today and there are so many more to come as I want to share them because who knows they may spark something with someone a world away that it may be of value to.
I will be touching on this topic on The UCW Radio Show and get some input from a real professional.
Remember that I will be in Atlantic City New Jersey this Weekend at the largest Martial Arts Event on the planet, The Action Martial Arts Magazine Hall of Honors at the Tropicana Hotel and Casino , Jan 21-22, 2011. It’s Sold Out, the Expo is going to be insane and I’ll be there representing myself, the UCW Radio Show and of course WEAPONS of Virtue along with Olando “The Warrior” Rivera, Alan Goldberg, Joe Lewis, Bill “Superfoot” Wallace, Michael Depasquale Jr., Dan “The Beast Severn”, Christine Bannon Rodrigues, James Lew, Shonie Carter, Chuck Zito, Richard Norton, Michael Jai White, Ray Mercer, David Toma, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Mark Dacascos, Al Dacascos, Demetrius “Oaktree” Edwards and many others, let me not forget the slew of FREE seminars that will be taking place.
Until next time have a great week!!
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